Ego of Dangote but Badore Brat

This sounds like a catchy line for self confidence, but it is not. Someone said this to me in a way of insult, as in he insulted me. Growing up as a female I have repeatedly encountered men or should I say 'boys' who after trying to get my attention, being nice and sweet for a while, get frustrated in a way that they become mean and aggressive...I got used to it. I have met men who are persistent and remain really sweet even when I start seeing someone else, so this isn't a stereotype.

To tell this story I will give the man a name...let's say Mr Adeniyi. Let me explain 'Badore' to those who do not know or reside in Lagos, Badore is in Ajah, and this part of Ajah is after the famous Lekki, way past Lekki. Badore is not a fancy place to live in, bad roads, terrible traffic and just the fact that it is far from the heart of Lagos...the Victoria Island, Lekki Peninsula, Banana Island and Ikoyi. Housing in Lagos is not something you can entirely categorize or categorize correctly, because there are slums in the so called 'posh' places, and regardless of your income, housing is ridiculously expensive, so as long as you have a roof over your head in Lagos, you are living the dream. Badore is terrible, when I say 'terrible' I mean it has the worst traffic, houses there are new and fine but in spite of the distance, they are expensive, obviously not as expensive as V.I or Ikoyi, but expensive, it is neither ghetto nor posh. And we all know what a 'brat' is.. and Dangote and Ego,,,,let's meuvveee

Mr Adeniyi and I first met at the bank when I was treating his transaction, one of those customers with simple issues but loved to complicate it. I told him his transaction would be done in an hour he insisted on having my complimentary card so he could call the office after an hour. From there, oga got my number. His office was not far from mine, he would breeze in and out ever so often doing one transaction or getting money. The first issue for me was, the third time he came into the bank, I saw him, he pretended not to see me and then got to his office and sent me an email to meet him for dinner...that did not sit well with me, so I ignored it. His transaction was done before time so he had no reason to call. Weeks past, I was having a bad day at work (everyday was a bad day and I never killed anyone)

and minding my business when he sent me a WhatsApp message, to cut this long story short after a year I agreed to go on a date with him, it was boring and the conversations were based off some of my social media posts and my blog, he acted like he just read my mind and he understood me, but I knew he googled me and stalked me, I appreciated the effort but it was the way he said some things...for example, one of my favourite songs at the time was Dave- Purple Heart, and I twitted about it, he played the song in his car on our way to dinner and then said 'I love this song, it really speaks to me.' I was like 'yea Dave is really good, do you like rap?' He said 'yes.'

Guys to be honest I was liking him small, I thought we would have a great time. Then he mentioned another thing I twitted about Feminism and totally taking my side on the issue, and then one story I posted...I was like this cannot be normal. I have had guys tell me straight-up 'Zi, I googled you, stalked you and read your book' its uncomfortable for me because that person knows more about me than I do him, but its honest and we have more stuff to talk about. But this Mr Adeniyi was pretending to be my soulmate and pretending to fit me like a glove, he didn't know when to stop. Well, we started chatting and he invited me to his house, which I thought was too soon and too forward of him...third strike. Long story short he got too forward, offering to come to my house and making jokes I did not find funny, so I stopped taking his calls and he stopped calling (thank God). After a while he would send me messages like 'I care so much about you.' 'I cant stop thinking about you' 'you are so beautiful and always on my mind'

These messages come like every three months...no communication whatsoever and one time I agreed to go on another date with him, he never got back to me with the details, next thing 'I miss you so much Zi'

He doesn't even know me, we barely spoke, went out on just one date. I got upset and told him never to send me that kind of message again, and he responded;

'You are a retard for addressing me this way. Ego of Dangote but Badore brat. Never in your life'

He finally showed himself... my response was simple...'where do you live?' can I google your net worth so I can address you based off your financial status?' Then I blocked him, I don't know why I bothered to respond, I hated myself for doing so.

By the way his real name is 'Adeniyi' he would probably read this too...Now I have written about you, and my ego is more like Jeff Bezos, or should I say Kanye, heard he became the richest rapper with a net worth of over 6 billion dollars.